Colours and Contours: Busting Through the Plus Size Myths

Black Dress
Busting Through the Plus Size Myths

One of the most enduring fashion myths that has plagued plus size women for decades is the completely misleading advice ‘black makes you appear slimmer’. First of all, it doesn’t, it makes you look washed out and dull, so unless you’re a Goth or an avid funeral attendee, it’s time to ditch the black and introduce some colour into your clothing. If your personality is bright and bubbly with just the right amount of crazy, then your wardrobe should reflect that, and bigger girls should never hide behind neutral colours and baggy shapes that only make them appear larger than they are. If you’re ready for a fashion overhaul, the following guide will help you select the best shades to maximize your features, and stand out from the black crowd.

The Perfect Shade

Whilst a black dress would certainly appear more slimming than a fire engine red version, that doesn’t mean that black is always the best option. Deep jewel tones in emerald green, sapphire blue, and amethyst will have a much more slimming effect, and can be used to accentuate different eye colours and skin tones. Colour blocking is also a fabulous option for larger ladies, as it can be used to bring attention to the parts of the body you want to highlight such as an ample bosom or voluptuous rear. Try combining an electric blue low-cut top with a pair of tailored black trousers for an instantly sexy look, or pull on some shocking pink jeans and team them with an elegant, flowing white shirt for a fun and flirty look.

Mix It Up

When combining more than one colour, it’s a good idea to choose an accessory such as a scarf or bag in a contrasting shade. Layering many colours on top of each other will have you looking like a traffic light, so stick to a single statement piece when experimenting with contrasting shades. Prints and patterns can also look fantastic on top of a bright colour, but opt for delicate, soft patterns, as opposed to chunky stripes or giant polka dots.

Some Things Are Never a Good Idea

No matter how much we miss the 80s, it’s not coming back and neither is its disturbing neon legacy. Fluorescent clothing received a brief revival last summer, but thankfully the trend died quietly before it managed to take hold. Whilst expressing yourself is always a good thing, some shades should be left to the professionals, and even they have a tough time pulling off yellow spandex. Avoid all forms of clothing that can still be seen when the lights are switched off, and any form of shiny metallic fabric and anything wet-look.

As long as you follow the aforementioned tips, you will have a wardrobe to be proud of that represents your personality in all its quirky glory. Many fuller figured women are wary of bright colours thanks to the fashion industry’s misguided advice, but there is absolutely no reason why every woman can’t wear any colour she wants, and look fabulous while doing so.

Tom Grant is a fashion aficionado. He enjoys sharing his insights on how every woman can look and feel her best. You can find the latest dresses, blouses, knit wear, trousers, jackets and even more.

The True Key to Weight Loss

Weight loss
The True Key to Weight Loss

Do You Know the True Key to Weight Loss?

It’s a sad but true fact that most diets do not lead to success. Most dieters aren’t happy with the outcome of the diets they try (I emphasize try). When one diet fails, they then go on to another and another… before long they are in a vicious cycle. Lose a few pounds, gain back the pounds and in some cases they even gain more weight than they lost. I’m sure this all sounds familiar to you. You’ve probably heard the term yo-yo dieting. If the diets fails, there has to be a reason, don’t you think?

Do You Know the True Key to Weight Loss?

It’s a sad but true fact that most diets do not lead to success. Most dieters aren’t happy with the outcome of the diets they try (I emphasize try). When one diet fails, they then go on to another and another… before long they are in a vicious cycle. Lose a few pounds, gain back the pounds and in some cases they even gain more weight than they lost. I’m sure this all sounds familiar to you. You’ve probably heard the term yo-yo dieting. If the diets fails, there has to be a reason, don’t you think?

Why Do Most Diets Fail?

Think deeply about this question. Do diets fail because they lack the necessary information needed for the participants to achieve success, or do the fail because of something that the dieter does wrong? Please read that again, because it is instrumental in recognizing why diets fail. Most people that don’t lose the weight they wanted to lose while trying the latest diet, blame the diet. It’s convenient to blame an outside source for our failures, but is it “The Truth!”

The True Key to Weight Loss Is…

Everything starts with a vision, the screen you’re reading this article from started with someone’s vision. Every building, every vehicle, every new product or service starts with a vision. Your ability to make your visions materialize is more important than what you eat. You can lose weight eating everything you eat now, but the amount of exercise you do would have to increase or the overall consumption of what you eat would have to decrease, alternatively you could do both. Look at the below points and ask yourself this question. Are these points true?

  • People lose weight without ever going on a diet.
  • People lose weight without using a book, DVD or personal trainer.
  • Losing weight is easy for some people.
  • I can lose weight and keep it off (yes you)

The reason these statements are true, is because there are people who have done these exact things and that means you can do the same thing. The key in every case is mindset. You must believe that it can be done and then make the decision to get it done and not waiver until it gets done. You have to take responsibility for your health, it’s not the diets fault, it’s not the health club’s fault, or any other outside factors.

How to Develop the Key

So how do you develop this key? What do you need to do in order to create the proper mindset, in order to get and stay motivated, in order to make the decision once and for all, to lose weight? Glad you asked. Everyone is different, but you have to look within yourself and ask questions like:

  1. Why do I want to lose weight?
  2. What’s stopping me from losing weight right this very minute?
  3. How much weight do I want to lose?
  4. What am I willing to do to achieve the weight loss I desire?
  5. What are three things I could do today to start my personal journey to weight loss?

Whatever your goals are, write them down and put them where you can read them every day. At the end of every day list what you did that day to achieve your goal. You see ultimately, you must have a overwhelmingly strong desire to achieve your health and fitness related goals. You then must break down your large goals into smaller ones and develop a consistent pattern of small goal achievement.

You Will Become Unstoppable

When you create small easy to achieve goals and then achieve them consistently, you’re building your confidence and self-esteem. By the time you’ve achieved 3 and then 10, 20 or even 50 baby goals, you’ve simultaneously achieved larger goals. As you progress you will build a track record of achievement and you will no longer fail when it comes to losing weight, because you will have reprogrammed your mind for success. You will become unstoppable.

So the key is, “Your mindset…your ability to materialize that which you visualize!”

Think deeply about this question. Do diets fail because they lack the necessary information needed for the participants to achieve success, or do the fail because of something that the dieter does wrong? Please read that again, because it is instrumental in recognizing why diets fail. Most people that don’t lose the weight they wanted to lose while trying the latest diet, blame the diet. It’s convenient to blame an outside source for our failures, but is it “The Truth!”

The True Key to Weight Loss Is…

Everything starts with a vision, the screen you’re reading this article from started with someone’s vision. Every building, every vehicle, every new product or service starts with a vision. Your ability to make your visions materialize is more important than what you eat. You can lose weight eating everything you eat now, but the amount of exercise you do would have to increase or the overall consumption of what you eat would have to decrease, alternatively you could do both. Look at the below points and ask yourself this question. Are these points true?

  • People lose weight without ever going on a diet.
  • People lose weight without using a book, DVD or personal trainer.
  • Losing weight is easy for some people.
  • I can lose weight and keep it off (yes you)

The reason these statements are true, is because there are people who have done these exact things and that means you can do the same thing. The key in every case is mindset. You must believe that it can be done and then make the decision to get it done and not waiver until it gets done. You have to take responsibility for your health, it’s not the diets fault, it’s not the health club’s fault, or any other outside factors.

How to Develop the Key

So how do you develop this key? What do you need to do in order to create the proper mindset, in order to get and stay motivated, in order to make the decision once and for all, to lose weight? Glad you asked. Everyone is different, but you have to look within yourself and ask questions like:

  1. Why do I want to lose weight?
  2. What’s stopping me from losing weight right this very minute?
  3. How much weight do I want to lose?
  4. What am I willing to do to achieve the weight loss I desire?
  5. What are three things I could do today to start my personal journey to weight loss?

Whatever your goals are, write them down and put them where you can read them every day. At the end of every day list what you did that day to achieve your goal. You see ultimately, you must have a overwhelmingly strong desire to achieve your health and fitness related goals. You then must break down your large goals into smaller ones and develop a consistent pattern of small goal achievement.

You Will Become Unstoppable

When you create small easy to achieve goals and then achieve them consistently, you’re building your confidence and self-esteem. By the time you’ve achieved 3 and then 10, 20 or even 50 baby goals, you’ve simultaneously achieved larger goals. As you progress you will build a track record of achievement and you will no longer fail when it comes to losing weight, because you will have reprogrammed your mind for success. You will become unstoppable.

So the key is, “Your mindset…your ability to materialize that which you visualize!”

Breathing Again After Divorce

After Divorce
Breathing Again After Divorce

Picking up the pieces and living again after divorce can appear to be an impossible feat to accomplish. Whether it’s amicable or tumultuous, the days leading up to, during and following the decision to dissolve the union can take an incredible toll, mentally/emotionally and physically. The good news is that there is life after divorce. That life will be what you make it.

Marriages end for a variety of reasons. They can end after short periods or they can crumble after many, many years. Divorce can be the result of infidelity, abuse, incompatibility or a host of other reasons. When there are children involved, regardless of their ages, the trauma can increase on a much greater level. Many times, children believe that the separation and the ensuing divorce is their fault. Marital dissolution has a ripple affect that can span far deeper than one can imagine.

The Children

Children can suffer greatly during the process of divorce. Although there may be obvious, glaring signs that point to the reasons a marriage is ending, many times, children are only aware that their home is in a state of chaos. They come to realize that they are going to live with one parent, either 50% of the time or some other percentage that represents everything new and different. They may feel like they have to take sides. They may feel that they are letting one parent down by wanting to live with the other. Young children have an especially hard time comprehending that these are adult matters. Teenage children will often try to “fix” the situation. Adult children can be equally traumatized as they wonder what will become of their parents “without” each other.

Regardless of the age of the child or children, they need to be reassured that they will continue to be loved unconditionally by both parents.

Taking Care of the Mind

The entire process of divorce can be taxing, to say the least. Talk to someone, whether its family, friends, your religious establishment or a professional. Often times, speaking a thing and actually hearing it out loud will allow you to see the situation for what it really is. Never be ashamed of needing help during this time. Resources are readily available so utilize them.

Regroup, Reset, Re-do

Although divorce represents a dissolution, it can also serve as a period of rebuilding, re-doing, and renovating. Perhaps now is the time to relocate to that city you’ve always wanted to live in. Maybe now is the time to change careers. Turn that long-time hobby into a money-making venture. Travel to all those places you said you would. Make it a solo venture or bring the crew. Just do it!

NOT the end

Life doesn’t end with divorce. Time heals. Take all that you need but don’t let it get away from you. Live life and live it on purpose!

The Mouth on Her

Gossip
The Mouth on Her

Gossiping (back-biting, bad-mouthing, telling secrets). We all know someone who participates on the daily. Participation comes in two forms: perpetration and/or listening. The two are highly dependent on one another – without one, the other cannot exist.

Gossiping is that idle talk about other folk’s personal or professional lives. Sometimes its sharing facts, most times, its sharing rumors and untruths. In the end, in most cases, that gossip is the root of slander and sometimes, unwarranted disgrace. Admittedly, I have participated in gossiping as the “carrier” of something I’ve heard. I never divulged other’s secrets – not that this fact made everything okay, but I just never did that. I have, more than once, also been the subject of gossip and bad-mouthing. On a  greater level, I have participated by listening to other’s assumptions, their guesses and unknowingly, the lies of  jealous women. Some of the things I’ve heard has been funny. Some of the things I’ve heard have been downright hateful.

Several years ago, I realized that being the perpetrator, listener or victim all result in the same feeling – pain. Once again, by definition, gossip is idle talk. Gossip is the result of another person’s decision to tell another’s secret, to talk about a friend or stranger behind his/her back or to bad-mouth him or her out of jealousy or anger. Sometimes, its the result of lies. I was the victim of the latter. Although I didn’t know the perpetrator on a highly personal level, she had been a co-worker. I would have never known the things that were being said about me had another co-worker not been fired. Long story short, both the perpetrator and I had moved on to much better jobs, with her having obtained her position on my recommendation! I had no clue she had been talking about me behind my back. I only came into the knowledge when the fired co-worked applied for a position at the same place I (and the perpetrator) was now employed, and a supervisor came to me asking if I thought the woman should be hired. Almost immediately, the perpetrator came to me, trying to find out, on the sly, if I knew what she had done. Eventually, I found out, and as you would expect, I was extremely angry. I had never done anything to either of them and was crushed that I had been cast in such an ugly, untrue light. It was around this time that I had been giving lots of thought to the fact that some of the things I had carried to and fro over the years could possibly have been untrue. It had just happened to me. It sickened me. I regret the fact that it took being the victim to make me understand that the consequences of something I had previously considered harmless, could be devastating.

These days, in my eyes, gossip is for those who have nothing else to do or too little to do. Even though I had plenty to do back in the day when I thought it was funny or acceptable, clearly, I wasn’t focused enough. My son is headed to college, I have a new grand daughter, I have a blog to write, I have a life to live. Equally as important, I spend my time loving and helping my friends and as many strangers as I can, so I have no time for gossiping and bad-mouthing. Life is too short to live it in the negative.

Move over black, it is Navy boots this season!

The autumn leaves have left their branches and crisp white snow will be here soon. Ever wondered how lovely mustard leaves or little flakes of snow will look when they gently caress your beautiful navy boots? You read it right, Navy boots are ‘in’ and here to stay.

Navy has been seen on runways world over, courted by top design houses like Dries Van Noten, Chloé and Céline. Often pitted as the new black for Fall/Winter 2013-2014, it has become the hottest color for the cooler seasons. Why not get in on the action, especially since it is navy’s time in the spot light… how boring has black and brown boots become!

You’re probably wondering what to wear with navy boots. Considering it is likely that you already own navy colored clothes in your closet, you can style your boots in the same manner.

Here goes the list:

  1. Neutral on Neutral: Navy,a dark neutral, pairs well with lighter neutrals. Throw on a pair of beige pants from summer over navy boots and you’ll be Fall ready in no time. Pair them with a white blouse, navy satchel and red lips to complete the look.
  2. Monochromatic chic: Very few colors exude elegance, class and sophistication like navy does, when worn as the only color in an outfit. Victoria Beckham strutted into the Royal Wedding wearing navy head-to-toe . Why not go all out with a fit and flare navy dress, navy cross-body and navy boots to paint the town red?
  3. Channel the Nautical: Work your navy boots with red pants and a white and blue striped top. Throw on a beige trench coat for cooler days and carry along a matching tote. You’re guaranteed second looks, for the right reasons of course.
  4. Rock the Color block: Brighten up a cloudy day by color blocking your navy boots with a hot pink skirt (don’t forget navy tights when it’s chilly) and a simple white tee. Tie the outfit together with a wide tan belt and bag.
  5. Back it up with black: Evolution taught us that it is super chic to pair navy and black; take it a step further and add grey to the mix. Wear your navy boots with black leggings and a grey slouchy sweater. Top off the uber-cool outfit with a navy tube scarf and a black bag.

Popular brands such as Impo, Steve Madden and Nine West carry their own version of stylish navy boots in casual or dress styles. Inexpensive pairs can be found online at zappos.com, dsw.com or in-store at DSW and Macy’s to name a few. Go on, get yourself a pair of this season’s show stopper!

New Year, Different (Approach to) You

 

New Year, Different (Approach to) You
New Year, Different (Approach to) You

Every year, on this day and the days leading up to it, all the social networks are flooded with pledges from many people that most, if not all things in their lives will change. They vow to lose weight, to free themselves from toxic relationships, to save money, to get organized and a host of other things. We start out with the very best of intentions. We put that thing on paper. We put that paper where we can see it. We create constant reminders of what we intend to change, get rid of, and/or gain. The unfortunate truth is that in the large majority of cases, we fail at keeping those resolutions. Some of us fail miserably. Perhaps, with a different approach from the beginning, things will turn out for the better.

Resolutions do not have to be “all-or-nothing”. A common mistake that many people make is that they assume that a new approach to eating, for example, means cutting all things bad for you, all at once. A different approach might be to cut sugar out gradually. Eliminate soda (or pop, as it may be) a few at a time. If you resolve to increase your reading, create a reading list and allow yourself to become a part of the book. Want to save money? Don’t resolve to save a whole half of your paycheck, which may put you deeper in the hole; set aside a few dollars every week, increasing that amount at you go along.

Also, the new year doesn’t necessarily have to start on January 1st. Your new year can begin any day of the year that you deem necessary. Maybe you can’t begin that new workout regimen in January. February, March or whatever month is good for you, is GOOD for you. Any month you can get that thing going will be the perfect time for you. It will begin your new year. Regardless of the month you choose to begin work on the project that is you, remember to pace yourself and the progress will come.